I've been following and enjoying The Vulva Gallery on Instagram for quite some time now and a little while ago I saw a lovely portrait of a woman talking about how she was unhappy about her vulva ever since she became aware of it, it was so bad that she fell into a depression and even underwent labiaplasty, hoping that it would change her view and make her able to start loving the way her vulva looked. However it did not seem to work as well as she hoped and unfortunately she is still not as confident, even after surgery. This really clinged to my thoughts! I’ve come a long way from also being insecure about my body, but I‘ve never questioned the look of my vulva though, it was a part of me – I could be unhappy with most parts of my body… (which changed over the years as I got fitter, healthier and also super confident about every part of me) but never have I thought about being embarrassed about the way I looked „down there“. To be honest I wasn't even aware that this problem exists and I realized how lucky I should feel that I never had trouble accepting my vulva. This I want to give as a little positive advice: love yourself and treat yourself good, you deserve it. I don’t want anyone to be ashamed of something that brings so much pleasure. No matter how a vulva is shaped, looking at the gallery I find them all stunning and unique in their own ways. I also often read how women are embarrassed when having sex showing their vulva, fearing that their guy (or girl) might not like it – in my experience: if you are confident and self-loving they will love it too.

A. - 31 years old