Growing up a teenager, I thought the appearance of my vulva didn't matter: the lover I hoped I was gonna meet was going to love me before ever seeing me naked, so my vulva didn't have to be beautiful because "He will accept me as I am, right?", I thought.

Then I had a terrible first boyfriend who said my labia were too long, among other things in my body that seemed wrong to him. But I didn't listen to him. Years later, I watched porn for the first time and I was like "What?! all these women have tiny labia!" And I got why mine were criticized at first.

And then it hit my feminist side. Let me tell you: people will project all sorts of things on you. Their fears. Their insecurities. Their standards. Our patriarchal society doesn't like women with strong features. They want tiny labia, tiny feet, tiny noses. They don't want a Serena Williams's body. They want women to look fragile and delicate. But all women, thin or thick, tiny or long labia, can be strong, and empowered, and beautiful. Never let anyone make you think that your vulva is abnormal or ugly. Never ever. Diversity is beautiful, not the standards in people's heads or magazines. I always loved my vulva despite what people said and I hope you do too!”

T – 23 years old